DATING AS IT IS MEANT TO BE 2 by DAMIAN

Hey people, how you doing today?        

Well I’m back and Dating as Its Meant to be is back also. Sure you got some few tips from the "Looking Good" article from Fashion Friday, thanks for the feedback. :-)

Let’s continue slowly; we’ll be going back a bit, so please stay with me on this.

Just before you plunge into dating, how well have you assessed you, because we are talking about you starting a journey that should lead to marriage. Bearing this in mind, a concise definition of Total Self-Worth should rest deeply in your consciousness.

The question is how well do you know you... how well did you answer that question? You need to be extremely sure you understand yourself well enough, before setting out to know and figure out someone else.

Sincerely, it’s a truth that seems to have been left in the dark.

A complete misunderstanding of self- worth is the primary cause of  most of the frivolous out breaks we have in relationships today, like; heartbreaks, anger, getting severely jealous just because your partner gives a warm response to someone else, and then the worse part, physical abuse.

If you do not understand yourself completely you wouldn’t correctly decide who to start this life long journey called marriage with. You’ll confuse loneliness with being alone. When your partner doesn’t call back or doesn’t call at all or didn’t read your ping or reply your text and you then get disappointed, sometimes extremely sad or mad at your partner, calling him selfish for selfish reasons.
You’ll interpret your partner’s warm welcome to another fellow as a threat, just then you might begin to lose the very essence of being in a relationship in the first place. You just might end up with a guy who sees you as nothing else but a nicely curved punching bag or a lady who thinks she’s Sindel. (Sindel is a mortal kombat character who has the ability to scream a person’s soul out of their body).

A Great man once told me this “no matter how nice a guy is, if he doesn’t have the Holy Spirit, he’s a time bomb, soon to explode” that’s the truth at its best, the same goes for the ladies.

They might only seem nice at the moment when they are trying to get your attention, just wait till they have it, and you’ll hate the fact that you ever said yes. I once read that “true strength can only be known when it is tested and tried in adversity” so what happens when you both have a disagreement and he beats you up or she screams you down. Here’s a wonderful saying “If they don’t change to have you, they wouldn’t change to keep you.” Bear that in mind.
               
If as a single person you can’t find happiness, you are lonely and not alone and I’ll tell you the truth, getting into a relationship wouldn’t help you find it either. Truth pill – relationships tests and builds your already found happiness, they don’t create one. In a relationship the happiness you felt as a single is put to test, because your partner would surely demand some of it just as you would be demanding some of theirs. Happiness can be allowed to grow if both parties have a complete mutual understanding of themselves and of the standards of a right relationship.

Ask yourself this; would you love you, if you knew you the way you know you, how would you approach you from someone else’s point of view?

Guys, how smelly do your socks get? Hmmm…..didn’t see that coming unh? How’s your armpit hair, how neat are your under wears? Someone once said how you treat your under wear is a function of your self-esteem, how well do you exercise, you don’t want to grow a pot belly later, do you? Are you a drunk and can’t stay away from alcohol (You need the Holy Spirit on this one), how well do you receive corrections, how well do you manage anger, how do you respond to failure, do you work with people or walk on people, and on and on and on……oh! Before I forget, can you cook? You are marrying a wife and not a cook, yes, she’s going to be cooking for you, but do not mistake her for one.

Ladies, hmmmm… Seriously, how is your lingerie, how neat are they, how long does it take you to wash the dirty ones, are you awfully lazy? How well do you show respect and concern, are you a party freak? (You’ll be needing the Holy Spirit on this one as well), how well do you take corrections?  Do you nag a lot? How do you respond to failure and how well do you manage anger, Can you keep his secrets? Yeah! And what are you bringing to the table; you wouldn’t want to reduce your husband into a money machine, would you?

So you see there are a lot of questions to be asked and a lot of answers to be given, these few things are things you should look for in any partner and one more “How do they manage money?”
Being single is where it all starts, you want a Great relationship; create a Great Single life first.

See you next time, and stay faithful to the blog, Thanks.

And stay tuned as “Dating as It’s Meant to be” will around for a while, cheers.

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